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FREEDOM TO FAIL

The Freedom to Risk Making a Decision Comes Only
After We Give Ourselves Freedom to Fail

"Be strong and courageous! Do not tremble or be dismayed,
for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

– Joshua 1:9 –

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When you give yourself, your children and your husband the freedom to fail, you remove the pressure to perform for acceptance.  You free yourself and your family to set aside any fears they may have while trusting God that He is in control, whether we fail or succeed. 

Not having a fear of failure sets us free – we are free to try even if we don't make it the first time. We are free to try over and over again until we do… finally succeed.

In the presence of this freedom, we learn from each failure instead of being condemned by them. The freedom to risk making a decision comes only after we give ourselves the freedom to fail.

Thomas Edison purportedly tried over 1,000 times before he developed the lightbulb. "How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?" a reported asked him.  "I didn't fail 1,000 times," Edison answered.  "The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps."

I talk to ladies every day who are so caught up in the 'fear' of failure that they don't try – they don't aim for success.  Our society deems failure like you shouldn't have tried at all.  If you don't try – there is no failure!

God has never said we shouldn't try – He never said we shouldn't fail… He did say: "be strong and courageous!"  He did say:  "He is with us wherever we go!"  I don't take that to mean that we shouldn't try, do you?

The quickest way to reach your dreams is to do it with "no" fear of failure!

Remember… as I always say:  I know YOU can do it!

Nancy

 

Searching for Hope, and Finding Joy…

Finding Hope When You're Physically Down

How Do You Keep Going When You're Physically Down?

Today, as I was going through several subjects that customers have requested I discuss in my newsletter, I found one thing which keept coming up over and over again.  Actually, it has been asked on a regular basis for many years now.
 
I has always been my goal to respond to your questions with a personal note – an email, or a call when necessary.  But, alas, I finally realized it was impossible to personally answer each and every one.  This is one of the major reasons that Best of Nancy and Grow With Nancy were formed; I wanted to be able to talk to you and answer your questions so others could benefit from each question and answer – they were all so similar.

These are some of the questions I have received, all basically asking the same thing:

  • "What do you do when you're physically down?"
  • "How in the world do you make wreaths, maintain several websites, send out newsletters, and manage a membership site while fighting health issues?"
  • "How can 'I' function when I am feeling so badly?"
  • "How have you kept going as you fight Fibromyalgia and Celiac Disease?"
  • Wow, I'm overwhelmed!  Please tell me where do I start?

 First of all, I encourage you to look around you today. Do you appreciate the beauty you see in a smile, in nature, and in those who are dear to you?  Or, in a newborn baby?

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Although I am in a lot of pain today, I am getting to enjoy our new grandson, Brendan Cole Alexander. You see… he is only one day old and SO very precious.

I wish you could see him. He weighed close to 9 pounds, and I knew yesterday when I was reaching for and holding that sweet little miracle that I would hurt. Did that stop me? Absolutely not!

Did I know that I would really pay for it last night and today and… for who knows how many more days to come? Of course I did! But, that doesn't matter. It didn't stop me. I enjoyed every second with him in my arms, and will do it again and again!

So, today I am sitting at my computer writing this with a very large ice pack on my back, a smile on my face, and a heart filled with joy.

I could have sat and felt sorry for myself while looking at that precious bundle of joy knowing how it would hurt me to hold him. But, I still would have been in some pain today or I may have unintentionally done something else which would have caused my fibromyalgia to flare up. My decisions now to situations like this are "do what you want"; "do what makes you smile"; and enjoy every single second!
 
"I am only passing through this moment…" ~Beth Moore
 
 Chronic illnesses are a severe problem for many of you, not just me.
 
Pain was (notice I saw 'was') the main focus of my life for so many years.  It colored the way I thought and felt, and reacted to the world around me.

It is hard to see the beauty in a flower, a sunset or sunrise, or a brand new baby when you are giving in and suffering in silence.  It is hard to think of doing something that would make your day productive when it is clouded with something which has such a deep, dark hold on you.
 
 My answer was… and is… "God".
 
I don't know where I would be today without all of the miracles God has worked in my life. 

I do know that I would not be sitting here at my computer writing to you, my friends, students, and faithful followers – were it not for God and all the Miracles "He" has performed in my life. 

I know without a doubt that He arranged for me to be sent to each "Professional" who finally diagnosed and treated the causes of my illness.
 
I am speechless when I think of the people who were sent into my life to encourage, uplift, inspire, diagnose and help me heal.
 
Jim Cockrum and I have talked about this many times – we call them "Divine Appointments"!  You may not believe in those, and if so, that certainly is your choice.
 
I don't want to impose my faith on you knowing that every person has their own beliefs, but in telling a story of me – "Beautifully, Broken Me" (as my friend Molly Alexander writes in her blog), I cannot forget the obvious and must share with you how I got to this point in my life.  That's what many of you have been asking me all these years. 

I do believe God has led me on a path for many years for a specific purpose – that is to be able to help and encourage YOU!

"By picking up the pieces of a broken life and putting them back together, a person cannot help but be changed.  This change is a beautiful thing that results in a deeper understanding of others and their situations, and gives us a chance to share our experiences with them, showing them that there is a way out – a light at the end of the tunnel."
 
"I believe that I have not just been broken, but put back together by God in a beautiful way – a way that I could have never imagined on my own."  ~Molly Alexander~

Isn't it amazing that I can now see, live, and enjoy the beauty around me?  And, oh, how I want to give you a sense of hope, joy and peace in "Your Beautifully Broken Life" too!

Blessings… Nancy

 

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"Me…" By Nancy Alexander


God, Family, Life, Work…

My life's goal is to make a difference in the lives of others by sharing with them the gift that God has so richly blessed me with.  I can honestly finally say I am grateful for the path God has led me on which has brought me to this place where I can love, encourage, teach, and train customers and friends.  I have been blessed with the gift of "art", and I am using this gift to teach a hobby that gives so many of you a reason to get out of bed each morning with joy and anticipation of what you will accomplish this day.

 

Life – My Life…

Life, Family, Work, Nancy Alexander

God Created me, He Saved me, and He Redeemed me.  He watches over me always holding out His hand to lead me on His path, as He catches me when I fall.  God brought my husband, Steve and I together over 40 years ago.  Steve truly is "the love of my life", you know, the "Knight in Shining Armor" that we all hope to find one day.  Because of my illness, this road has not been smooth, it has been full of pot holes, and curves, and steep hills.  But now, God has led us on his smooth path and walks with us – together – hand in hand.  My husband cherishes me, he loves me more than I have ever felt loved before, and he supports me in whatever endeavor we feel God is leading us or me to do.  I am overwhelmed with this "unconditional" love, I had never known.

God has given Steve and I a very special family, one that we both adore, made up of our two boys, their wives, and our four precious grandchildren.  Each one is so very special making each day giddy, lovely, joy-filled and happy.  We play together, laugh together, and we giggle together.  And, there are plenty of hugs, kisses, and Wuv You Mimi & Poppy! I thank God every day for the blessings of my life and the love that fills it.

My heart is full today. It is full of blue birds, daffodils, colors and smiles. It is overcome with praises to God for all of His blessings, and the family He has seen fit to entrust me with.  With a chronic illness, I have failed many, many times and have not been the wife and mother I wanted to be.  I am so thankful now, that God, in his infinite wisdom, has seen fit to give me another chance.  ~Nancy~

Finding Strength…

"Hello Friends"   By Nancy Alexander


I'm so excited you stopped by today to spend a little time with me…

Today, I want to share a verse of scripture with you that is very dear to my heart. This verse comes from 2 Corinthians 12:9, "But He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.'"

I don't know about you, but for me, there are days when I feel so weak. When I wake up not feeling well or I am simply overwhelmed by unexpected changes in my life, I find myself feeling weak and defeated. This verse jumped off the pages as I was reading my Bible because it says to me that there is power in my weakness! Don't confuse this as your own power. This power comes from having God in my daily life! In fact, His power shines thru when I feel the most weak! In my weakness, I have learned to depend on Him and trust His plans for my life.

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It may sound strange I know, but the times when I have felt the most weak, overwhelmed or defeated, I have turned to God and found His unconditional love for me and His great power to give me strength to push through.  Those are the times when miracles happen. They are the times when it is apparent that He is at work in my life, and in the choices I must make to grow closer to him.  They are also the times when I must make necessary changes in the direction of my business, making sure it follows His direction.

I don't know what circumstances you are battling today, but I pray that you will find encouragement and strength in this powerful verse. If you are feeling lost on your spiritual journey, I encourage you to seek out a Bible-teaching church in your area. You do not have to be defeated by your health challenges or difficult circumstances. I once heard a wise pastor say, "You may feel defeated, but you do not have to be defeated!" Isn't that a powerful thought? Just because I feel a certain way, doesn't mean I have to be that way!

Learn to rely on God's power in your weaknesses, and you will find a freedom that brings joy despite what's happening around you! I pray that today you feel encouraged and a little stronger as you rely on His power in you!