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Fibromyalgia…Yes, I am Being Cured!

 

"I Can Be Cured" By, Nancy Alexander


From Fibro… to Freedom

 

I want to start doing a series of posts about how Fibromyalgia affected my body – explaining some facts about each symptom to you.  There is now lots of help for Fibromyalgia, and eventually a cure!

By doing this, it is my hope that you will begin to understand exactly how some of these strange and often misunderstood symptoms truly do affect you AND ARE REAL!  If you suffer from Fibromyalgia, you'll be more informed as you understand what is going on with your body — and — information in addition to understanding goes hand in hand in leading to a cure.

I suffered physically and painfully for many years with my entire body hurting – even my skin!  Also during these years, I also suffered much stress, embarrassment, and misunderstanding from doctors, family and friends when I would try to tell them how and where I hurt.  At times, this made me doubt myself!  Then, there were other times when I was just plain "mad" because no one could tell me what was going on and no one would believe me.


I want to tell you just a little today about how my skin hurt.  I know it sounds strange to say that my skin hurt, but it did!  Pants with a waistband hurt me, in addition to bra straps, tight collars, socks, and even shoes.  No blue jeans for me…they hurt my legs when I sat down.  I even went for several years not being able to wear a bra, so I would wear baggy clothes in layers to keep people from noticing.  Even temperatures, either hot or cold, gave me severe pain!  Deciding what to wear every day became a dreaded chore.  For me, as well as many of you who suffer from Fibromyalgia, this can cause awful, unbelievably intense pain.


First of all, I had a very low pain threshold as do most sufferers from Fibro.  This low pain threshold is a point where sensations you feel become pain.  This usually varies from person to person, but this threshold is much lower in people who suffer from this horrible disease.   A low pain threshold results in a particular form of pain which is called "allodynia". 


A definition of "allodynia" is pain, generally on the skin, that is caused by something that wouldn't normally cause pain.  Some of this pain can be caused by mild pressure which may come from a light touch, gentle massages, or sheets rubbing against the skin.


These pain signals originate within specialized nerves called nociceptors that sense information about things like temperature and painful stimuli from the skin.  This type of pain can go into other areas such as neuropathy, neuralgia, and migraine headaches.


Most of my pain which came from simple touches felt like having a sunburn all of the time.  This makes your clothes feel like sandpaper and a light touch can feel like searing pain.


I went through an awful time in my life where it hurt me to hug someone, to shake someone's hand, or to even be patted on the back.  I would find myself cowering back from any type of touch. I even sat on a pillow for many years as hard seats hurt.  My husband says that during these years, it was awful for him as well as for me because he could not roll over and put his arm around me in bed.  We slept as far apart as we could in a king size bed because I hurt so badly.


Thanks to the steps I am taking now, I can wear (tight)blue jeans, I wear a bra again (whoopie!!), and my husband can keep his arm around me all night…which he does (that is such a marvelous feeling — Thank You God!!) 


I'll be talking more and more about the symptoms of Fibromyalgia as I also talk about what is beginning to actually CURE me!


Don't give up!  PLEASE do not give up!!! I almost did,and now my life is so totally different.  I am blessed, I am almost cured, and I truly believe with all my heart that you can be too!


Smiles… Nancy

 

 

 

Facebook & “Women Making a Difference”

"Facebook" By, Nancy Alexander


Women Making a Difference

 

"Women Making a Difference"

When I was studying Facebook last week, reading about all of its options and opportunities, something very different and new came into focus for me.  It was one of those "Ah-Hah" moments as I looked at the faces of my friends and associates.  


I saw face after face after face of women that ARE making such a difference in the lives of others.  There are Internet Marketers, Entrepreneurs, Authors, Singers, Songwriters, Inspirational Writers of Books and Blogs, Ladies who teach and encourage others with their multi-faceted talents and gifts.  Mothers, who care for, inspire and direct their children to grow up to make a difference, Women who have a Heart for those in Orphanages, and so, so many more!


For many years now, I have been working very hard building up my Internet presence and my business.  For me, Facebook has always been a social networking site used to keep up with friends — helping us to know what was going on with them in their daily lives as we celebrated their joys and accomplishments.  We prayed for these same friends holding them deep to our heart as they faced many of life's challenges.  Facebook then went on to become a way to promote my business with the new "Facebook Fan Page", and now my new Payvment Store where I sell my DVD, and e-Books.  But now, at least for me as well as many others, there is another and more exciting avenue on the Facebook Horizon.


God has always been my "Rock, Strength, Courage, and Inspiration".  He changed my business years ago as He has also changed my life DRAMATICALLY as He loved me and carried me in many times of trouble.  My Internet business, which was always a driving factor in what I planned and did in my life, is different now.  Yes, I guess you would say I am what they call an Internet Entrepreneur.  Oh, but that is not nearly as important as where God has been leading me for some time now.


HE has given me a "HEART" for others!  And…on a regular basis "Breaks MY Heart for What Breaks His".


So many ladies email me daily who suffer from the same insidious disease I have suffered from for over 30 years…Fibromyalgia.  They tell me they want and need what I have.  They want a reason to get out of bed in the morning with a desire and a goal in their hearts which given them strength and energy to push through the hurt that their bodies deal out on a regular basis.  They want to be able to own their own business and earn extra income to help support their families. They see that I have strived to do this in spite of dealing daily with a chronic disease…a disease which, by the way, GOD IS HEALING ME OF RIGHT NOW…TODAY!


So, my goals and my life are different now!  I am on a "Mission for God"!  I don't know exactly where it is leading, but He does!  He is walking on a path before me calling me to follow.  I cannot see where the path leads; I cannot even see too far ahead on this path.  I DON'T NEED TO!  I KNOW I am NOW going in the right direction because God is there calling me forward!


So…"Women Making a Difference" came to be!


As with the path God is leading me on, I cannot see too far ahead into the future of this "group", but I know it is right and good and meant to be!


I know that I am being led to somehow join each of "us" together as we share our goals and our dreams with encouragement and support in every endeavor in our lives.  Each one of you is already making a difference in the lives of those you know and come in contact with every single day, so You are:
"A Woman Making a Difference"!


Just imagine — With God's Leading — How Amazingly Strong Our Influences Combines Together Can Become!


I have prayed "The Prayer of Jabez" every single day since 2001!  When I first prayed this prayer and read:  "Oh that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory", I would stop and think;  this does NOT apply to me – I cannot!  How can God enlarge my territory when I can hardly ride in a car to Greenville, SC only 30 minutes away?


Well, shame on me for doubting Him!  God HAS enlarged my territory to be able to reach and talk with people from all over the world. So, we have no idea what God has in store for us as a group of "Women Who Really DO Make a Difference" in our worlds!


Just click on this link if you would like to send me an email about Women Making a Difference:  WomenMakingADifference@groups.facebook.com  We would like for you to join us and write a little about yourself.  Tell us your dreams, your desires, and share with us your goals and accomplishments.  We want to cheer you on in this "crazy" world we live in letting you know that many who care are standing behind you!


I watch in amazement every single day how my God CAN and IS changing lives all around me…
ESPECIALLY MINE!


Blessings… Nancy


If you would like to go to my Facebook page and read about all the ladies in the "Women making a Difference Group", just click on this link:  http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/  then click on the link in the left sidebar entitled:  "Women Making a Difference.'


I Love Vacations

 

"I Love Vacations" By, Nancy Alexander


Probably for Reasons Different Than Most

Yes, I know…Everyone Loves Vacations!

My reasons are different than most.  Truthfully, I have always loved vacations.  As a child we didn't have much money, but my daddy made sure our family of five would have a vacation every single summer! 


Daddy saved quarters all year long.  I could hear him each day as he returned home from work, taking them out of his "pocket change" as he dropped them into a brass jug which sat on the fireplace mantle.  We would sometimes only be able to stay for three nights, then as the years passed, it was a Week Long Trip!  These were very special weeks for my sisters and I growing up. 


We stayed at the very same place the first week of June in Myrtle Beach, SC every single year.  We would arrive around lunchtime on a Sunday afternoon and watch for a family with girls the same age as us to arrive from Ohio.  They came the very same week every single year too.  Daddy made sure we also had the money to eat a nice seafood meal once during the week, and a nice breakfast out once also.  The rest of the time, our mother prepared a big meal at lunchtime every day in that tiny "kitchenette".  We enjoyed those meals so much as three little girls very always very hungry after swimming all morning long. 


The first few years after Steve and I married, we had wonderful vacations too.  We went to the beach — Myrtle, of course — as that was where each of our families had spent vacation time every year.  We also visited the mountains when we got a chance.


Then, a few years after our boys were born, I was stricken with this strange illness which stopped our vacations for the most part.  Sure, there were years or maybe only months at a time when I felt a little better and we could go back to our "favorite" beach.  But those trips were few and far between.  Any extra money was spent on doctor, after doctor, after doctor as well as different "miracle" drugs, and strange "holistic" cures which never worked. 


I finally diagnosed myself with Fibromyalgia after being sick for at least 15 years.  Honestly, I don't know why it was so important to be diagnosed because there was still no help, and the doctors still tried the same drugs.  The only good thing that came out of being diagnosed was my own peace of mind. 


After being told it was either "housewife syndrome" or "in my head" or "severe depression" time and time again, I was somewhat relieved that I could finally tell people:  "See!  I really am sick!  I told you I was!"  But, where was the cure?  Why didn't I get better since I had been diagnosed?  The pain, the stress of having a "chronic" illness, and the unreasonable thoughts of others just added to what I was already feeling — I had no hope!  For me, the cure didn't come for 16 more years.


I know…I am sure…I am totally convinced that God used this time, and this pain to grow me into the person I am today for a reason.  I receive emails from women just like me who have gone undiagnosed for many years.  They are hopeless and they feel like they are loosing their minds — just as I did.  Some of them consider suicide…yes…just as I did!


But they are not loosing their minds!  Fibromyalgia has now FINALLY been proven to be a legitimate disease.  There is hope and there is a cure!  I know because I am now being cured of this insidious, misunderstood disease.  I have a ministry over that reaches women all over the world through the "web".  I encourage and support these women by telling them what I went through and show them where I am today.  I give God ALL the Praise and the Glory!



 

So… Why Is This Post Called "I Love Vacations"?

 


The reason is… my husband Steve and I just returned from a wonderful vacation!  God has sent the right people into my life at just the right time.  I am being healed, I do eat a special diet, and I do take just the right supplements, and I am getting off any prescription drugs (there were not many) that I was on.  I am able to enjoy life again!  I want each of you to join me on this path too! 


We spent two days with our children and grand-children in Charleston, SC.  That was so much fun!  And, we got to attend a GREAT service at New Spring Charleston!  Here are pictures of Matt and Sara at work along with pictures of Lucas and Ava learning about the Fruits of the Spirit!~  Our son Matt is Production Director at New Spring Charleston, and our daughter-in-law, Sara is acting in a play in Kid Spring Charleston.  Little Wyatt is busy breaking all the hearts in the nursery!  We are so very proud of them and their work there!


Lucas Practicing Ava Enjoying a Song Singing About Fruits of the Spirit
Sara Acting on Stage at Kid Spring Charleston Matt - an Impressive and Hard Job as Production Director


I am going to be talking more about my diet and my cure for Fibromyalgia in more posts.  But, for today, I wanted to share a few pictures with you of our wonderful vacation.  Vacations for me these days are more special than for most.  You see…I was sure I would never again be able to travel and enjoy life the way my husband and I are enjoying it now. 


Just looking at the sites as we ride down a long highway has a special meaning now.  Simple things like walking on the beach while holding hands with my husband, and feeling the sand squish up between my toes brings such joy.  I thank God for each sunrise and sunset that I can watch over the deep blue ocean!  Each day that I can enjoy on this earth with my husband, our children and grand-children is such a special gift from God!



I didn't have Internet access for most of our 10 day vacation.  I thought that I would, and I took my laptop with me along with my bag of "office supplies" that I was sure I would need.  But God took care of that for me…He knew I needed a rest so that is what I got… a most wonderful, restful vacation.


We have been talking about Internet businesses in our membership site lately; http://www.BestOfNancy.com.  It is wonderful to be an Internet Entrepreneur and have a business that is run on auto-pilot while I am away.  I don't believe there was a single day while we were gone that I didn't have money coming in.  Now, this type of business is by far better that the storefront business I used to have!




 

How God Used Floral Design to Save Me…

"Floral Design Saved Me?" By, Nancy Alexander


How God Used Floral Design to Save my Life

Twenty-eight years of age (that’s how old I was when I became sick); it was very depressing to wake up in the morning not knowing how my body was going to feel when I stood up…and I mean waking up "if" I had been able to sleep at all the night before. The question always appeared at dawn’s first light: would I be able to do anything to make my day worthwhile? 

 

Would I be able to drive my children to school? Could I really attend tonight’s basketball game? Would I be able to get in my car and run errands? For a while, no…I couldn't do any of these!  Even accomplishing the simplest of tasks around my home, tasks that everyone else would take for granted, was not taken for granted by me. You see, I have been sick for over 30 years with Fibromyalgia and Celiac disease, along with the various other health problems related to these conditions.

 

Why am I telling you this? I receive heart-wrenching emails every single day from my customers who feel just exactly the same way that I did for many years.  In almost every email I read stories just like mine, from women just like me.  They desperately want and need to get well; to feel productive again; to have a life!  Or, if they have finally given up on that desire, they at least want to have something in their lives to make them feel like they have something – anything to want to get out of bed every day.


I have just launched a new membership site called www.BestOfNancy.com along with my friend and partner, Linda.  In the forums on this site, I can talk to each of you.  I'll finally be able to answer questions, every question that I have received during my day!  The only difference is that now, with my new membership site, I won't only be filled with just intentions of trying to answer every email when there is just no time left, but I can answer each question.  I can get to know you better as I help you reach for your dreams!

 

For a reasonable monthly fee, I am so honored that my partner Linda have been given the opportunity to teach, inspire, and guide you to the life of your dreams, just as I found this life not so many years ago when I truly thought my life was over.

 

For years, as my Fibromyalgia symptoms appeared and disappeared back and forth so many times, I felt like there were two different people living in my body.  I tried to run retail shops in several locations.  Considering the trying times along with severe pain I was facing, I fought with all my might every single day to succeed in providing the finest of silk floral arrangements and wreaths to the most elegant homes in Anderson, SC and the surrounding area. But, in order to be able to run my business, I always hired more people to work for me than I really could afford to pay; you see, I couldn't depend upon my own body…so I had to depend upon others.  There were times when I would have to leave and go home at a moment's notice — or even lie down on the floor until the severe dizzy spell would pass.  I never wanted to have to close my shop because of my illness. 


Later, after the economy started to change, my husband and I decided we could no longer afford to keep my business open.  That was such a hard decision for me.  I felt like I was having to give up the only thing that had given me purpose — except my children, of course.  There were then and still are now the joy of my life.  Our boys have married wonderful wives who have given us the four most beautiful  grand-children on the planet!  I know, I know… just a little bit prejudiced here!  LOL


After closing my business, I was determined not to give up.  It would have been very easy for me to give in to my pain and despair staying at home all day feeling sorry for myself.  But, NO, I couldn't do that!  Someone had mentioned eBay to me.  Even though I didn't know much at all about it, I began to read and read and read.  It wasn't easy, but I figured it out finally and after only 5 or 6 months, became a power seller on eBay, that is – before eBay began to implode.  Now, I am a successful entrepreneur, teacher, writer, and businesswoman, selling my floral creations and educational products from my own website.

 

This all happened for me because I took a hobby that I was pretty good at and took a chance at making it something more. A hobby is something that makes you feel good about yourself, an activity that you can share with friends and neighbors and one that, hopefully, you are really good at – if not, you can learn!  And when illness or a tragedy knocks the breath out of you and literally flattens you, that same hobby can be the support you need to climb back up and face your battles.

 

Let me tell you more about my gift from God…a hobby that gave me such a purpose and drive to greet every day. Floral design gave me joy, value, excitement, a reason to feel alive, and a reason to jump out of bed with such a start in the morning that even I was surprised.

 

Oh, can you just imagine?  This hobby of mine can become your new hobby, too.  Even more, this new skill can bring in much needed extra income, if you want to take it in that direction. Maybe you’re a mother with young children to care for and you don’t have a job outside of your home. Maybe you are a widow, who is alone and needs something to keep your mind and hands busy.  My heart’s desire is to share this wonderful hobby that I love so much, but you must realize that you will have to accept the joy and excitement that comes with it…at no extra charge!  Depending on what you do with this new skill, you may also receive bonuses, like confidence, pride and some extra cash for your bank account!

 

You might be a young-at-heart Baby Boomer who needs the sense of accomplishment, inspiration, and joy that comes when you complete your first project with your own two hands – all by yourself!  I honestly believe my floral experiences and business skills have equipped me at this point in my life, to teach, encourage, help and inspire you to do more than you ever thought possible.

 

I can finally say, and truly believe, that I am GRATEFUL for my illness, because God has used it for a greater good, to encourage me to spend time taking stock of my life.  I focused on my skills and goals, which brought me to this point in my life where I now understand that one of my strongest goals is to follow God's leading and give something back to each one of you reading this. 

 

What do I have to offer you? I offer you my care, my interest in your lives, my talent, experience, skills and creative energy doing something that I love, and something that has changed my life in a very positive way.  Floral design can turn your life around, too!

 

What if you woke up every morning with a smile on your face? When was the last time you popped your eyes open with such a feeling of excitement and anticipation that you JUMPED out of bed, anxious to begin the best day of your life? And what if that happened every single day? Just Imagine that! No more rolling over and going back to sleep!

 

I sincerely want you to feel the joy that I feel and the energy I get when I pick out flowers for a special wreath, or centerpiece design. Oh, and the giddy feeling that I get when I hold a bunch of flowers in my hand and envision how they will look on my finished project for that day can be “catching”. This is what can happen when you develop a passion for any kind of floral design such as making wreaths, centerpieces, wall baskets and more!

 

I have had a career as an Internet Marketer for almost eight years now.  I pour my heart into every wreath, arrangement, video, or book so that I can share myself and my joys with anyone who is interested.

 

I am so excited for you, knowing what lies ahead! Something magical happens when I stand in front of those cameras. Most of the time I am shy and maybe a little withdrawn, but not when I'm teaching. I am able to stand there and describe every single step in the wreath design process with you because I LOVE IT!

 

The words flow out of my mouth. I can stand 2 or 3 hours straight, with no break, when I am teaching wreath instruction. This overwhelming feeling of being energized, strong, and knowledgeable is empowering when I teach this wonderful hobby or craft that I love.
  

As you gain experience, you will advance in your designs and your creative desires will certainly begin to show in your work.  Friends and neighbors will be curious about where you purchased your special design.  When they find out you created it yourself, you will be surprised how many people will want you to make one for them.  



 

At first, you may not have enough confidence in your abilities to charge for your creations, but, I can assure you that, with more and more requests for your creations, your confidence will grow and grow.

 




 

Then you’ll know; you’ll just know that you have the gift of a talent that has given you joy and a reason to face each and every beautiful day.  You are creative; you are talented.  You can, if you so desire, begin to charge for making these special wreaths and arrangements.

 




 

Then, I assure you, you will feel so very good about yourself, your talent, your accomplishments, and your life!  You WILL realize your creations are coveted by your family, neighbors and friends and certainly worth getting paid for.  You can begin to earn extra income!   Of course, that is an exceptional bonus, but that does not mean as much as the personal feelings of accomplishment, pride and confidence you now carry! 

 


I truly am honored and feel completely unworthy to be given the awesome responsibility to encourage, teach and inspire you!  But I thank God for the chance to do just that!


Prayers in the Dark

 

"Prayers in the Dark?" By, Nancy Alexander


I am Praying for Steve as he Drives off in the Dark

My life is FULL!  But, I am NOT complaining!  I am grateful!  Some days I can hardly believe it is lunch time when my sweet husband calls around 12:30 to remind me to eat!  I know… I know… that's pretty bad, isn't it?  I just get soooo busy!  🙂


I get up at 5 am every morning (Monday through Thursday) with my husband.  I take a shower, fix my hair which consists of running my fingers through it and kind of shaking it out, and put on my makeup.


In the kitchen we pack a breakfast and a lunch for Steve while preparing a hot cup of coffee for him to drink on his 45 minute commute in the dark.


Then comes the very best part of our day; we sit facing each other in our office as we open our couple's devotional book.  These devotionals were started two years ago when extremely painful circumstances in our lives led us to make major changes if "we" were going to survive as "one".  Without these changes, we would never have been given the opportunity to Live, Love, and Cherish each other in life and marriage as is God's plan.


We read a couple's devotional every single morning.  And in the last two years, have gone through several really good devotional books.  When we finish, they are put aside as we know we will go back to each one again someday.


We recently started a new book.  This one gives us such encouragement as we start our early day in the dark of night!  It is "The One Year DEVOTIONS for Couples" by David & Teresa Ferguson.  The daily scripture and encouraging words about keeping a marriage alive have turned out to be a beautiful way for us to begin each day. 


Before Steve leaves…still sitting facing each other…we hold hands and pray together praising God for our blessings as we lift up each other along with our children, grandchildren, and family.  And, we also pray for so many people we know who are facing illness and disaster in their lives right now – on a daily basis.  Our prayer list just seems to grow and grow.  About two days ago, it grew unbelievably as God touched my life…but I'll tell you about that in my next post!  This morning we were truly blessed to be able to go to God in prayer – together – as we do every single day! 


Then, Steve drives out of our driveway a little after 6 am each morning.  I stand at our office window waving goodbye as I pray for God's protection over him as he drives to work on long, and winding, dark roads.  When the two or three alarm clocks (actually sounds like six!)  go off so early in the morning, Steve encourages me to stay in bed a while longer and get a little more sleep.  Ohhhh, but I cannot!  These early morning hours of devotional and "praying in the dark", are the most special moments of my day!


Now, don't get the wrong idea here… we are not "the perfect couple" with no problems.  It does seem as though I have painted this "unreal" picture depicting the life of a happily married "perfect" couple with no problems. 



But, remember in the beginning of this post, I said there were circumstances which brought us to this point, and there were.  We just happen to be among the few truly blessed couples who have been able to weather the storm by turning to God for His help.  We are very much in love and trust in God enough to follow Him as He shows us "His" way — which we didn't always see or understand. 


We are both now 60 years old.  We have been through a lot of pain, hurts and tears to get to the point where we are now.  We had to learn the hard way that God's grace IS Sufficient and Faithful to Forgive, Redeem, and Love us no matter what!


After Steve is off to work, then my work day begins!  And…NO…I don't go back to bed!  I filmed two how-to videos last week and while they are being edited, I am working on the covers for my videos with a young man, Hrvoje Livnjak from Zagreb, Croatia. 


I am also writing my newest EBook entitled "My Yard Sale Treasures", and with the help of Linda Joseph, my dear friend and assistant, we are putting the finishing touches on my new Membership Site!  I'll talk more about this in another post also!


Gotta get busy…It's 2 pm, and I just ate lunch!  (Sorry Steve!) 

Have a blessed day as you follow your heart and God's Leading!